On their first date at a San Francisco restaurant in April 2014, enough wine flowed and sparks flew between Elizabeth Krasney Berman and Richard Alan Fiedotin that the two soon found themselves “giggling like teenagers at the bar,” she said. .
“I was immediately drawn to him from the start,” added Ms. Berman, 42, the owner of LKB Consulting, a San Francisco firm that specializes in analytics and marketing strategy. “He was handsome, super charming, incredibly talented, had a great sense of humor and was incredibly generous.”
Mr. Fiedotin, 55, founded by a mutual acquaintance, was equally impressed by Ms. Berman, who graduated summa cum laude from Yale, earned an MBA from Harvard and, like Mr. Fiedotin, was a fellow San Franciscan who never was married.
“When I first met Liz, my first reaction was that she was beautiful,” says Mr. Fiedotin, who graduated magna cum laude from the University of Pennsylvania and received an MBA from Stanford. “I quickly realized that her overall intelligence level was completely off the charts.”
Mr. Fiedotin also has a medical degree from Cornell, but became interested in electronic health records early in his career and decided to leave clinical training to work in the information technology industry. (He is one of the founders of Epocrates, a mobile medical application that was later acquired by Athenahealth.)
At the end of their date, Mr. Fiedotin walked with Mrs. Berman to her house a few blocks away, where he kissed her and wished her a good night, but not before making plans to see her again.
Over the next few weeks, however, his calls to her became less frequent, she said, and it became clear that he was hesitant about getting into a relationship.
Just two months after their impassioned first date, Mr. Fiedotin called off the whole affair, leaving Ms. Berman “miserable and confused,” as she put it.
Mr Fiedotin said he broke things off because “I didn’t feel like either of us was quite ready for marriage.” He added: “I also worked on a start-up – a small business health insurance platform that he named Benefitter. (It is now owned by UnitedHealthcare.)
A few months later, they got back together and promised to forge a friendship. They do not rule out the possibility of a new love affair.
“It was very slow progress to be friends again,” Ms. Berman said, “and very slow progress to start dating again.”
In 2016, Ms. Berman and Mr. Fiedotin were traveling together and had met each other’s families. And by the fall of 2018, they had officially started dating again. Around that time, Mr. Fiedotin presented a stuffed elephant to Ms. Berman, who represented “the elephant in the room,” he said.
Explaining how he came to realize that Ms. Berman was the one for him, Mr. Fiedotin said, “It got to the point, if something big had happened in my day, Liz would be the one I’d want to talk to about it.”
“She was the one I wanted to share it with, and we talked more and more, until we got back in a relationship,” he said.
In the summer of 2019, Ms. Berman moved into Mr. Fiedotin’s San Francisco apartment. They got engaged about two years later, in May 2021.
They married on April 3 at the Barns at Cooper Molera, an event space in Monterey, California. Rabbi Rosie Haim performed in front of 140 fully vaccinated guests.
“It’s been a long journey, especially in our time,” the bride said a few days after they were married. “But it was well worth the wait.”