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Ten principles include essential values such as communication, trust and respect, which guide couples as they embark on their lifelong commitment
In the journey of marriage, whether it is a product of love or arranged, certain fundamental ground rules can help build a strong foundation for a successful and fulfilling partnership. These ten principles include essential values such as communication, trust and respect, and serve as a guide for couples embarking on their lifelong commitment, regardless of how their union came about. Jeevika Sharma, Relationship Coach discusses the basic rules:
- To trustThere must be trust between both partners, and this should not waver at any point. A marriage, whether love or arranged, without trust would never be successful. Both partners must maintain trust by being loyal to each other.
- FinancesWhether it is an arranged marriage or a living marriage, both partners must manage their finances well. Both should know the other’s income and savings and plan all investments together. They should also consult with each other before making major expenditures.
- Household choresBoth partners have to perform household chores. Even after housekeeping, there are some things that need to be done by the residents of the house. All such matters should be shared equally between both partners.
- TimeThe most important thing to manage is time, that is, the time to give to each other. No matter how well the partners know each other, they need to spend time together for the marriage to work.
- FamilyYou have to manage the family, but also the relationship. The family includes the in-laws and their responsibilities. Even if the in-laws live separately, they need to be taken care of. You may be new to them in the case of an arranged marriage, or you may have known each other for a long time, but the responsibilities remain the same.
- Don’t criticize your in-lawsTreat them like your parents, give them time and meet them regularly.
- Avoid argumentsDon’t bring up arguments that either of you had in the past. It could ruin the relationship.
- Don’t hide anything from your partnerWhether it’s about your past relationship or something your partner needs to be aware of. Hiding it can lead to arguments and even break up the relationship. Hiding is like lying to your partner.
- Partners should be open to talking or sharing information with each other, having full control of their senses. They should not use the help of alcohol or drugs to be honest with their partner.
- ForgivenessIn a marriage, both partners must forgive each other for small arguments. There is no point in dragging an argument to the point where the relationship would be broken.