As self-care focus has become an important part of modern life, dating app Bumble has added a new feature called “Authenti-date” that encourages users to check in with themselves and embrace them for who they are.
“Authenti-date” essentially means reflecting and expressing your most authentic and true self. This is aimed at a more balanced approach to dating, one that works for individuals to find truly meaningful connections.
“By embracing ‘Authenti-date’ and representing your most authentic, true self, you have the best chance of finding someone who is on the same wavelength as you, leading to truly meaningful connections. Authenti-date is about showing the real you to the world so that others get to know you and like you for who you are,” said Samarpita Samaddar, director of India Communications at Bumble.
“We want to empower people to do what’s right for them, and date on their own terms and pace,” she added.
Bumble’s relationship expert Shahzeen Shivdasani shares a 5-step plan to help people become a more truthful version of themselves. Look here-
1. Be mindful when you believe fearful assumptions
If you have a bad experience on a date or while having a conversation with someone new, it can be easy to conclude that you’ll just never find your person, which can lead to burnout. Remember that sometimes it is not the experience itself that is the cause of the problem, but rather what we make of the experience.
2. You come first
Prioritize yourself and set boundaries. Thinking about what has and hasn’t worked based on past dating experiences can be helpful from the very beginning in deciding how and in what way you want to get to know someone new. Often we tend to overthink every move at first, but go with the flow and try to enjoy your conversations as you begin to get to know someone.
3. Identify what is draining your energy
When we feel overwhelmed, we often feel that a major upheaval is in order, such as pulling the plug on dating. However, a large pivot is not always the best course of action. On the contrary, it’s important to be clear about the specific aspects of dating that can contribute to fatigue.
For example, ask yourself if the amount of time you’re investing or if it’s the preparation you’re putting in to get ready for the date that feels unsatisfying. Maybe it’s the predictability of the kind of dates you go on (dinner, drinks, repeat) or people you hang out with aren’t right for you. Be clear about what part of dating isn’t satisfying, then make a plan to address it. Maybe that means changing your typical date night routine, being more selective (or less selective!) about who you hook up with. If you usually go out to the same or similar restaurants, and you think this way hasn’t worked for you, try something new. Maybe switch up with creative IRL date ideas.
4. Focus on your “why?”
Dating often causes us to dwell on the question, “Am I desirable?” Instead of focusing on pleasing others, try turning that expression around and asking yourself what YOU desire instead. While you may be dating to find your life partner(s), there are often additional motivations that you may not have thought of. Are you dating for new romantic experiences? To meet people who inspire you? By exploring these alternative goals, you can change the way you experience the path to ultimately find the connections you are looking for.
5. Date at your own pace.
The bottom line is that it’s not always easy to find someone you bond with, building a lasting relationship can be difficult, and maintaining that bond takes a lot of work. Remember, anything worthwhile takes effort and time, so give yourself space and plenty of grace as you navigate these waters. Finally, don’t forget to enjoy!
Busy schedules hinder personal time
In our daily busy lives, looking for meaningful and lasting companionship is something that people want. In India, people looking for connections face various pressures – be they societal, familial and sometimes self-induced – to find a partner, especially within a certain time frame.
A recent survey of Bengaluru by dating app Bumble found that 49% of young people in the city took a break from dating last year due to their busy schedules with work or other commitments, while 42% claimed they needed time to focusing on themselves before dating again. a break.
Several said finding interesting people or finding someone who met their standards or expectations or with shared interests were some of the reasons they still yearned to put themselves out there.
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